Location: Remand Home
Activity Date: 18.10.2023
Start Time: 10:00 AM End Time: 12:00 PM
Facilitators: Adelaide, Sophia, Yoda, Spencer, Ruth, Dilara, Dahlia, Tiago
Number of Participants: 40
Male: 48 Female: 2
Activity Purpose/ Summary:
The purpose of the session what to have a conversation with the children about healthy relationships and find out what they know and don´t know about the topic. Furthermore, we focused on personal issues that might influence our ability towards having healthy relationships. We also gave our participants a chance to learn more about themselves, as getting to know yourself is a mayor step towards having a healthy relationship with others.
The session began with a warm-up activity called “Spots in Movement.” Background music was played, and at various intervals, the music stopped, prompting participants to engage in specific activities. These activities included walking backward, one-legged jumping to different corners and back, sharing jokes, playing rock, paper, scissors, and exchanging special handshakes.
The discussion centered on the characteristics of healthy and unhealthy relationships. Participants explored their responses to challenging situations and identified the key components of a healthy relationship. One crucial point emphasized was the relationship with oneself and its direct influence on interpersonal relationships, emphasizing that inner peace is essential for harmonious external relationships.
The concept of projection was introduced to shed light on how one’s unresolved issues can affect their perceptions of others and the dynamics of relationships.
The Iceberg Principle:
Participants engaged in an exercise that involved drawing an ocean’s surface and their own metaphorical iceberg. This exercise encouraged reflection on the aspects of themselves they reveal to others and those they prefer to keep hidden. The goal was to recognize the hidden aspects and any feelings of shame or discomfort associated with them.
Needs in Relationships:
The discussion revolved around identifying one’s most important needs in a relationship and reflecting on past experiences when these needs were unmet. To facilitate this, “Need cards” were provided, allowing participants to select their needs and discuss them.
Participants were tasked with drawing a flower and listing their most important relationship needs within the flower’s leaves.
Must-Haves and No-Goes in a Relationship:
The report emphasized the importance of establishing and communicating personal conditions (must-haves) and limits (no-goes) within relationships. These conditions and limits are considered non-negotiable and should be understood and accepted without debate. The report underlined the necessity of sharing these expectations for the relationship’s success.
Circle of Respect/Acknowledgement in Smaller Groups:
This section focused on the concept of respect and acknowledgement. Participants were prompted to reflect on what they respect about themselves, what they respect in other group members, and what aspects of their environment they respect or appreciate. This exercise aimed to foster a deeper understanding of respect within interpersonal relationships and beyond.
The children found out what their Must-Haves and No-Goes are. They got to know the deepness of a persons personality and supported each others self esteem by verbalizing what they appreciating about themselves and each other.
The engagement and curiosity of the children towards the different needs in a relationship as well as their ability to compliment each other and tell their neighbors what they respect about them.